Most of us have been there before- everyone around us can see that the relationship we’re in is in shambles, but we keep pressing on. Sometimes, our intuition tells us that it might be time to move on. Other times, we know that logically, the relationship has nothing more to offer and it’s time to take the next step.
It’s not until the situation looks too bleak to make a comeback that we often realize that the end is here and it’s time to move on from it. The truth is that relationships should make our lives better. Your partner should be someone that you can rely on when things go bad. Unfortunately, even when relationships seem great at the beginning, people grow apart and a situation can get toxic.
Whatever situation you’re in, you might have to reconsider things. If you aren’t sure what to do, here’s a little help on what you should look out for to know whether it’s time to move on from a relationship.
- It’s Stressing You Out
It’s definitely time to reconsider the relationship if you’re constantly stressed out by being with the other person, or if you have to constantly deal with and listen to their problems. A healthy relationship should be the source of happiness and value, rather than sadness and feeling unappreciated. If the bad in a relationship outweighs the good, it could be time to move on.
- You’re Begging For Affection and Attention
No one should have to be on the fence about whether or not they like you if you’re in a relationship with them. Their feelings for you should be so clear that you don’t have the option of doubting them. No one should ever have to look for evidence that someone loves them and if you’re constantly begging for your partner’s attention and affection, it should be clear that maybe they’re just not that into you. The fact that you’re means that you’re valuable and lovable and love should come to you freely.
- You Have to Hide Who You Are
Are you struggling with showing your true self, or feel like you have to be more “pleasing” to your partner? It’s ok to want your partner to love you or be impressed by you, but this should put pressure on you to be something you aren’t. You don’t have to change yourself and pretend to be who you aren’t so that someone else can be happy or comfortable. You’ve got to be comfortable in a relationship while being who you are. And, things might not work out if your needs aren’t a priority or if you fear that the other person will leave you if you can’t be yourself.
- There’s Physical, Emotional, and Verbal Abuse in the Relationship
Under no circumstances should you ever have to accept physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. It doesn’t matter how much the other person tries to make up for their abusive behavior. If it happened once, it can happen again. If the other person abuses you in any way, this could be a sign of something else that has to be addressed.
The bottom line is that you can’t be expected to remain in a toxic relationship. Your own happiness and the well-being of your loved ones should come first, even before the relationship itself. If you’re constantly unhappy or having some emotional problems, getting help is always better than suffering for too long. If you find yourself asking ‘is the relationship worth saving?’ more often than not, then it’s time to consider moving on.