How to Regain Intimacy After It’s Lost

Do you miss the early days of your relationship when you and your partner couldn’t keep your hands off each other? Maybe you miss talking to your partner and sharing your deepest thoughts. You aren’t alone if you feel like your relationship has become distant and disconnected.

Any couple can experience a loss of intimacy. However, this doesn’t mean that you should leave the relationship. With patience, understanding, and effort, you can rebuild the loss of connection with your partner. Below are some of the best strategies to regain intimacy and strengthen your relationship. 

• Understand the reasons for the loss of intimacy

The first thing you should do in reclaiming the loss of intimacy in your relationship is to find out how it happened in the first place. Maybe you’ve had busy or conflicting schedules, maybe unresolved conflicts have taken center stage in your relationship, or there’s emotional distance that you simply can’t get over. Whatever the reason, you must acknowledge your role in the breakdown of intimacy and take responsibility for it. Have an honest conversation with your partner and focus on understanding each other’s perspectives rather than accusing or blaming each other.

• Communication is key

You and your partner should communicate openly and honestly. Communication is a vital part of any healthy relationship, and both you and your partner must be open to talking without distractions. Practice active listening and make sure you understand their perspective. If your partner says they feel something, try to understand what they’re saying. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements when trying to pass a point across so that you don’t sound accusatory. Be clear with your partner about what you need from them. Remember to tell them what they can do to make you feel valued.

• Spend quality time together

You and your partner should spend more time together if you’re willing to rebuild intimacy in your relationship. Most times, we neglect our relationships when life throws too much at us and we end up focusing on other things. Consider setting time aside each week for date night with your partner so you can start prioritizing your relationship. Focus on each other, take up a shared hobby such as dancing or hiking, try out new things like a new restaurant, or listen to music you’ve never listened to before. The goal of this exercise is to create positive vibes around the experiences you share together so that you and your partner can reconnect and strengthen your bond.

• Show physical affection

Physical touch is a big part of intimacy, and it’s vital that you show affection to one another regularly. You can do this by cuddling, holding hands, or giving each other a massage. Physical touch encourages the release of the love hormone oxytocin, which promotes intimacy and bonding. If you’re struggling with physical intimacy, start small by maybe holding hands, or ask your partner what they prefer. Remember to tell them what you need so that you’re both at par.

• Seek professional health

Sometimes, trying to rebuild intimacy on your own is challenging. If you feel like you need help, there’s no reason to shy away. A counselor or a therapist can give you the tools and support you need to navigate the challenges of rebuilding intimacy in your relationship. They will help you to identify any issues in your relationship and work with you to create a plan that will help you overcome them. They will also offer you practical advice and teach you communication skills that will help you to reconnect with your partner.

Conclusion

The loss of intimacy in your relationship can be distressing. However, if you follow the tips we’ve given you, you’ll be on the way to rebuilding what you lost. Remember that rebuilding intimacy takes time, effort, and patience, but you can do it as long as you and your partner are willing.